Seasonal Friend. Modern problems, answered from the wisdom traditions.
Short pieces on getting things done without losing yourself in the process, in plain English. For almost all of us who are busy, and a little tired of being busy. Written by Deepak Parihar, a writer, strategist and yogi who lives and works at a Sivananda ashram in Kerala, India.
Yogic Productivity: one short piece every morning
A series of short pieces on why we know what to do and still don’t do it, drawn from the Bhagavad Gita, the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali and the Sivananda books. Start with Day 1.
I write about getting things done without losing yourself in the process. I live and work at a Sivananda ashram in Kerala. The answers here come from the Bhagavad Gita, the Yoga Sutras and the Sivananda books, written in plain English for people with a full inbox. More about me.
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N, a published author in Japan, reflective and precise. D, a writer in India, warm and direct. W, a short story writer in Germany, published in international journals, a storyteller.
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About Seasonal Friend. Your work is good. Your words should be too.
Deepak Parihar. Writer, strategist, yogi. Over five million published words.
Yoga teachers, studios, retreats and wellness brands do real work. But much of it never reaches the people who need it, because it is hard to put into words. That is where I come in. I have written over five million words for clients and brands. I am also a yogi, so I understand what you teach and why it matters.
I live and work at the Sivananda Dhanwantari Ashram in Kerala. My days begin and end with meditation and chanting, with yoga in between. The rest of the day I run the ashram’s media, from the website to the videos, and most of what I write about comes from what I learn here.
What I help with
Finding your story: what you stand for, said in a way only you could say it. Writing it simply: plain words that people read to the end and remember. Getting it seen: in front of the right people, on the right channels.
I also write about yogic productivity: how to get things done without losing yourself in the process. The answers come from the wisdom traditions, from texts like the Bhagavad Gita and the Yoga Sutras, written in plain English for today. It is for almost all of us who are busy, and a little tired of being busy. Read about Yogic Productivity and Responsibilism.
Kind words
“Working with Deepak in India was a joy. He helped us shoot and coordinate our documentary, and somehow every permission got sorted. On long, hot days he kept our tired crew smiling. He even pitched in on the edit afterwards. We would happily work with him again.” Lee Taekyoung, Producer, South Korea.
“D did a great job. He created a compelling narrative and extensive planning for us. I would recommend him and rehire him in the future.” Mark Dominik, Owner, Bins and Boxes GmbH.
Yogic Productivity: getting things done without losing yourself in the process.
Yogic productivity takes the ordinary questions of a working life (why can’t I focus, why am I so tired, why do I keep making the same mistake) to texts that have been asked them for two thousand years: the Bhagavad Gita, Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras and the Sivananda books. Then it answers in plain English, with one small thing to try today. By Deepak Parihar, a writer and yogi at a Sivananda ashram in Kerala.
The problem
You know what to do and you still don’t do it. Most productivity advice begins with the plan. The old texts put the problem one step earlier: a restless mind cannot hold a plan, however good the plan is. So the first job is to settle the mind the plan depends on. We usually ask “How do I make myself work?” Yoga asks “What is keeping my mind so busy right now?”
Responsibilism: three kinds of work, done together
Responsibilism is the practice of taking responsibility for your own state. It borrows its shape from Ken Wilber’s Integral theory, which says a person grows along more than one line at once, and fills that shape from the yoga tradition. Clean up is the body and the habits: food, sleep, fasting, cleansing practices, writing things down, looking at the parts of yourself you would rather not; Explorative Letters live here. Wake up is attention: Patanjali’s eight limbs, from how you treat people, through breath and posture, to concentration and meditation; learning to watch a thought instead of becoming it. Grow up is responsibility: first for yourself, then for the people around you, then wider; work done well, money handled like an adult, what the Gita calls karma yoga. You do a little of each, most days, and the lines pull each other up.
Start here: the series, in order
Day 1 Why Do I Know What to Do and Still Not Do It? Day 2 Why Does My Willpower Run Out, and What Brings It Back? Day 3 What Is Draining My Energy? Day 4 What Puts My Energy Back? Day 5 Why Should I Take Sleep Seriously? Day 6 Does What I Eat Change How I Think? Day 7 Can Fasting Help Me Think Clearly, and How Do I Start? Day 8 Why Do I Argue with Myself? All posts.
The books behind it
The Bhagavad Gita. The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. The books of Swami Sivananda and Swami Vishnudevananda, several of them free from the Divine Life Society at dlshq.org. Sanskrit terms are explained in the glossary.
Glossary: the few Sanskrit words used on Seasonal Friend, in plain English.
abhyasa (practice)
Doing the same small thing again and again, on purpose. Patanjali says it takes root when it is done for a long time, without a break, and with care. He does not mention intensity.
ahankara (the I-maker)
The part of the mind that says “mine”. It takes a thought, an achievement or a mistake and attaches it to you. Useful for getting out of bed; unhelpful when it will not let a mistake go.
buddhi (the deciding mind)
The faculty that weighs and chooses. When it is clear, you know what to do and do it. When it is clouded by tiredness or craving, you know what to do and watch yourself not doing it.
chitta (the mind-stuff)
The whole mind, including memory and everything stored in it. Patanjali’s definition of yoga is the settling of its movements.
chitta vritti (the waves of the mind)
The movements of thought: wanting, remembering, imagining, worrying. Patanjali counts five kinds. Two of them tend to be the ones keeping you awake at midnight.
dharana (concentration)
Holding attention on one thing. The sixth of Patanjali’s eight limbs, and the step most people skip on their way to meditation.
dhyana (meditation)
What concentration becomes when it stops being effort. The seventh limb. Patanjali put it this far down the list for a reason.
gunas (the three qualities)
Three moods that colour everything, including your mind on a given morning. Sattva is clear and steady, rajas is restless and busy, tamas is heavy and dull. You cannot pick one, but you can notice which one is running and feed the one you want.
karma yoga (the yoga of action)
Doing the work fully and letting go of the result. Not indifference; the opposite. The Gita’s most quoted verse (2.47) is about this.
kleshas (the afflictions)
Five knots that sit under most repeated mistakes: not seeing clearly, taking yourself to be your roles, clinging to what feels good, pushing away what does not, and fear of ending. Patanjali names them so you can find the one you keep tripping on.
manas (the sensing mind)
The part of the mind that receives and reacts: the phone buzzes, manas wants to look. It is fast and not very wise, and it is not the whole of you.
prana (life force)
The energy that everything else runs on, including willpower. It can be spent, leaked and restored. Yoga is unusual in treating energy, not time, as the thing to manage first.
pranayama (breath practice)
Working with the breath to settle the mind and tidy the energy. Five slow breaths with a longer exhale is the smallest version.
pratyahara (drawing the senses in)
Turning attention away from what is pulling at it. Putting the phone in another room is pratyahara with a door.
sakshi (the witness)
The part of you that noticed the thought. Not the thought, not the one who argues with it, the one watching. Finding it is the most practical idea in this whole series.
samadhi (absorption)
The eighth limb, where the watcher and the watched stop being two things. Not something to aim at on a Tuesday, but good to know where the ladder goes.
samskara (a groove)
A habit as the tradition sees it: a track worn by repetition. You do not erase a groove by deciding to. You wear a new one next to it, a little at a time.
sattvic (clear, light, steady)
Of food, a room or a mind: the quality that leaves you clear rather than heavy or wired. A sattvic diet is the yogic answer to “does what I eat change how I think”.
svadhyaya (self-study)
Looking honestly at your own patterns, often by writing them down. Sivananda asked every student to keep a diary. Explorative Letters are svadhyaya with a pen friend.
vairagya (detachment)
Not having to follow every pull. You can still want the tea; you notice the wanting and stay where you are. Patanjali pairs it with abhyasa; together they are the whole method.
viveka (discernment)
Telling the lasting from the passing, the real from the merely loud. The skill that buddhi is for.
yamas and niyamas (how you treat others, how you treat yourself)
The first two limbs: honesty, not harming, not grabbing, restraint, not hoarding; then cleanliness, contentment, discipline, self-study and surrender. The part of yoga that happens before the mat.
Yogic Productivity
Getting things done without losing yourself in the process, with answers drawn from the Gita, the Yoga Sutras and the Sivananda books.
Responsibilism
The framework behind all of this: three kinds of work done together, clean up, wake up, grow up. Borrowed in shape from Ken Wilber’s Integral theory, filled in from the yoga tradition.
Work: a few things Deepak Parihar has written, and what happened next.
Five million words for clients and brands, most of them unsigned. Content strategy for a corporate training company: organic reach up 600% in four months by answering the questions clients were already asking, one thoughtful piece at a time. Brand narrative and content planning for Bins and Boxes GmbH, Germany (“He created a compelling narrative and extensive planning for us,” Mark Dominik, Owner). Media and communications for the Sivananda Dhanwantari Ashram in Kerala: website, search, newsletters, blog, videos and social channels. How a project goes: a free brand audit, a few short conversations to capture your voice, then the writing and a distribution plan. Request a brand audit.
